Pre-Marital Counseling

Guiding and supporting newly engaged or soon-to-be engaged couples on their journey towards a solid marital foundation.

You’re taking a major step! Don’t do it alone.

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Therapy at Whole Hearts Counseling is for all relationships regardless of age, stage, sexual orientation. Your relationship is a wonderful investment. Together, let’s talk about how to set your unique relationship up for lifelong success.

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You may be asking yourself: “Why should my partner and I go to therapy before we’re married? We have a great relationship with very few problems.” This is a valid question!

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Why pre-marital counseling?

Whether you’re engaged or seriously dating, pre-marital counseling can be a tool for you to set the stage for a wonderful, healthy marriage. We’ll discuss many aspects of marriage, your values, and your future together. While you may agree on most things, I’ll help set you up with skills to have the inevitable difficult conversations when you don’t see eye to eye.

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What are some topics that are often discussed in pre-marital counseling?

-Raising a family/parenting (if applicable)

-Your process of problem solving/resolving conflict

-How each of you express emotion

-How you feel most loved & how you show love

-Religion/spirituality (if applicable)

-Finances

-Families of origin

-Support systems

-Sex

-Attachment styles

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More questions about pre-marital counseling

  • I want therapy to be your unique experience. Whole Hearts Counseling offers a couple different pre-marital experiences: (more) structured vs. unstructured. Kaylan is certified in a pre-marital program called Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts (SYMBIS).

  • Premarital therapy provides a space for you and your partner to talk through aspects of your future marriage that are important to you. While you may agree on many things, premarital therapy helps set you up with skills to have difficult conversations later on when you don’t see eye to eye.

  • Here are just a few:

    -More understanding between you and your partner

    -Uncovering values within your relationship that you want to carry into your marriage

    -Learning new things about one another

    -Putting into words what you have already seen/experienced in your relationship (emotional expression, love languages, frustrations, etc)

    -Gaining skills for emotional connection, expression, resolving conflict, and discussing hard topics